Yes! I always talk about this in my classroom and with the parents—sharing is a skill developed much older than we think. Like you mention, us grownups can barely “share” like we expect toddlers too (quickly, immediately, with no emotion) I often focus on turn taking, or finding alternatives instead of needing to use the exact item a friend has, etc.
Thanks so much for the shout out! This may have started out as an unpopular opinion back in my day, but I think it's catching on. Appreciate you addressing it further.
When the kids learn about the warm fuzzy you get when you share, they usually come to a kind conclusion quickly. As you state, we just need to start 'managing the message'.
Hope you're giving yourself grace with the parenting stuff. It's a rough gig❣️
Loving this perspective on sharing and the reframe - we aren’t done with the toy yet. Also the difference between the desire to share something with another versus being forced.
Totally agree that we often expect more of kids, especially toddlers, than we do of ourselves and other adults. We expect children to be more emotionally and socially advanced than they are psychologically and developmentally capable of being, and then we blame them (and often, feel like we are bad parents) when they can't perform something they are not yet capable of performing. Thanks for the post!
Yes, 100% this. Our expectations for these tiny humans are so high. I’m grappling with that a lot in some other areas of parenthood, and tend to cycle between lots of different emotions.
Yes! I always talk about this in my classroom and with the parents—sharing is a skill developed much older than we think. Like you mention, us grownups can barely “share” like we expect toddlers too (quickly, immediately, with no emotion) I often focus on turn taking, or finding alternatives instead of needing to use the exact item a friend has, etc.
Thanks so much for the shout out! This may have started out as an unpopular opinion back in my day, but I think it's catching on. Appreciate you addressing it further.
When the kids learn about the warm fuzzy you get when you share, they usually come to a kind conclusion quickly. As you state, we just need to start 'managing the message'.
Hope you're giving yourself grace with the parenting stuff. It's a rough gig❣️
Loving this perspective on sharing and the reframe - we aren’t done with the toy yet. Also the difference between the desire to share something with another versus being forced.
Totally agree that we often expect more of kids, especially toddlers, than we do of ourselves and other adults. We expect children to be more emotionally and socially advanced than they are psychologically and developmentally capable of being, and then we blame them (and often, feel like we are bad parents) when they can't perform something they are not yet capable of performing. Thanks for the post!
Yes, 100% this. Our expectations for these tiny humans are so high. I’m grappling with that a lot in some other areas of parenthood, and tend to cycle between lots of different emotions.